I secretly wish I could forever be a young hot 21 year old lesbian girl. However, with the reality of human aging, I’d rather be a straight guy. Girls are just so much more interesting & sexy than guys. Is this weird? I hope so.
Most professionals are not versatile experts in their field. Most just find a gig in commerce that they can be decently proficient in to earn a middle class living for themselves. The standard of true versatile expertise or mastery has escaped most of these people in our society. Lack of passion is often tied to this. Keep this in mind when purchasing the labor of these “professionals”.
I used to hate the color red and not personally identify with it at all. Then, last summer, my personal transformation instantly flipped my mindset towards the color red. Now I love the color red and totally identify with it. Before, the color red was too out of control & charged with negative emotion. Now, I love the edgy & fiery emotion in it. One of the more personally interesting psychological developments I’ve had.
Your average person pursues romantic relationships like your average entrepreneur pursues business building… By trying to force their feelings & vision upon the market without true alignment with the natural forces & mechanisms of human life. No wonder both types of pursuits are consistently enjoying such high failure rates throughout the world.
Getting real & strategic, based on human nature & resource realities, will multiply your odds for sustainable success & happiness. Ongoing fulfillment of market demand is the key to ongoing success in entrepreneurship. Ongoing fulfillment of personal desires is the key to ongoing happiness in personal relationships.
Conditional love beats unconditional love. People who strongly value unconditional love are likely reaching out for whatever they can get and are very afraid of rejection or loneliness. Being loved for your truly precise custom self, by those who you love back conditionally, is much more pleasurable than simply being loved for being born a human. The specific conditions of love you desire make it much more potent than vanilla love without any conditions.
In general, how does one get around branding issues of participating in the Age of Fuck You? You economically act through proxies (other people & brands). How is an eccentric, hedonistic rebel like me doing so? Initially, primarily through marketing, then later through more significant capital investments. Either way, the proposition of value is not placed on my personal identity. So my identity is totally freed up to be as crazy as I please and I can still predictably make bank.
We live in a world of scarcity, not abundance. We have an opportunity to create an experience personal abundance throughout our scarce lifetimes. That’s it. But, overall, reality is grounded in scarcity and it will be an uphill battle for most all people. It is likely only through future technology paradigm shifts, will this start to become slightly different for any meaningful number of lives.
Depression has been a rare but valuable teacher for me in my adult life. I need to hold on to its lessons. It shows me how to be extremely shrewd for personal happiness in life. It shows me the mindset of how to really really really not give a shit about anything but happiness. This is what I need to become 24/7. Feel it and live it, Brian.
Had a hard drive crash and suffered a pretty big data loss as a result. This has made me feel depressed because I lost a decent chunk (few dozen gigabytes) of my historical work. I need to work on establishing a mindset of not caring about past things like this. I can’t take it with me after death, which will likely be here sooner than later, so I shouldn’t give a shit about it during my life. Instead of treasuring past artifacts of my life, I should be deeply lost in the process of creating & enjoying new peak happiness experiences. Fuck the past. Delete.
Getting raw & real with your own subconscious mind is where the true game is at in life. You can’t touch this shit.
The best way to reject the mainstream is to exploit them for pleasure & profit. Despite the mainstream mindset being an inauthentic & poor way to live, there are some great treasures there to continuously repurpose for your own custom masterpiece of a life.
I’m losing grip on the mindset of professionalism, but when I connect to it every so often, I feel so glad that I’m freed from that personal prison. It is a night & day difference to engage life through raw personal hedonism versus societal professionalism. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Fuck the social diseases of professionals & puritans. I’m not living my life for you.
For assisting your predictable success & happiness, I recommend an in-depth study of…
Psychology: Understanding human nature, subconscious, motivations, emotions, fears, habits, relationships, etc, puts most of life into real perspective and can give you the mindset & tools to deal with the actual reality of people versus their surface-level facades.
Yourself: Amazing happiness and effective functioning & achievement in life will often be out of reach without a meaningfully deep understanding of yourself, including your identity, personality, desires, habits, fears, etc. Psychology expertise really helps here too.
Marketing: Commerce runs much of the world and understanding value & influence in this domain of life can help you make meaningful amounts of money as well as see beyond the facade of consumption that many people live through. Mixed with psychology, you can become a real social ninja.
Finance: Understanding money & investments will reveal another fundamental layer of depth to the workings of the world and give you the capability to manage & compound your financial resources beyond the earnings of your everyday commercial operations (employment, self-employment, entrepreneurship). This knowledge will open up the world & financial mechanisms of corporate wealth to you.
Quality people, barrels of money, & the time to enjoy them in ways that align with your unique personal desires will likely fit your aspirations.
Do you fucking understand that we live in a world where gangsta rappers go from living in the hood & dealing drugs, to rapping about “Money, Cash, Hoes”, and then become close personal friends with some of the world’s most respected & richest multi-billionaires?
This is the same world that you are creating your own life in, right now. Who’s got the leg up in life? You or your average gangsta rapper living in the hood? Isn’t it obvious that it doesn’t even matter? Is it not clear that the only thing that matters is what you want to do with your life and then going & doing it? Is it not clear that any path or lifestyle you want to live is valid, no matter what anyone else says?
Go get the fucking life of your dreams. Whatever you want. Only you can hold you back. Be tenacious, be smart, & break free.
The heart of entrepreneurship is marketing. Marketing is the strategic study and application of value & influence. Ultimately, the heart of marketing is made up of psychology, sociology, & economics. You can get everything else right, including team, management, financing, legal, systems, etc. But, if you don’t get the marketing right, then you’re likely toast.
However, one self-employed person with solid marketing can predictably mint millions in profit on a shoestring budget. You’re entire offering & presence should be crafted out of a marketing centric approach. Commerce is about fulfilling market demand, and marketing is the comprehensive business function which lies closest to that. Be a marketer first and an entrepreneur second, or at least partner with a professional marketer who is really good.
Go make a list of your personal desires, including the most deepest, eccentric, & taboo ones within you that you’re afraid to say to others. This is where happiness comes from for you. Not what society tells you to want. How much of this are you willing to go get in your lifetime? Tick, tock. It will all be over before you know it. Go be free & happy.
Virtually no specific opinions or beliefs stick in the world that long, so go ahead and automatically dismiss the one’s you don’t like that are put upon you. The rest of the world already has or soon will anyway. Use your own personal happiness filter liberally.
At some point, I’m going to be starting & building a lifestyle community of my people who are hedonistic rebels like me. However, I’m looking for a killer name for the community that can be fairly timeless for the brand, as I expect it to exist for decades. I’ve only seen two other brand names in the world that come close to what I want. I came up with a candidate for the name today that could be good enough to work. I’m still persisting though for something even better. Yet, this is a really tough brand & application to crack, so this very well could be the name I use. I’m likely going to start out with a lifestyle blog this year.
One of the most ideal forms of commercial value exchange is the selling of one’s natural self-expression. Because, this boils down to person getting paid for doing exactly what they would do themselves anyway. The potential upside is how the cash flow can extend the pleasurable experience. The potential downside is the distortion of the conditions & experience due to changing desires & demands.
Even though I’m a naughty potty mouth, I am addicted to having a clean mouth. I don’t like the thought & feeling of dirty mouths. I consistently brush my teeth throughout each day after every meal & snack. French kissing clean mouths are so much better. Even though I just brushed my teeth, I guess I better go wash my mouth out with soap for all the cussing I’ve been doing lately. 
Oh, be careful little eyes, what you see. For you just might see the truth of life, which they were too scared to face.
How many people out of all humanity are starting out brand new today with pursuing something you want in life, who will actually persist & succeed in achieving it. Why not simply join them?
My biggest heroes in life are the people who end up producing the meaningful solutions of life extension. Without these people, human life ends too quickly. I truly hope to know of these people & their work within my lifetime(s).
Knowing how to be very effective with meeting your needs in life can help make you very dangerous with successfully fulfilling your wants. Health is a key pillar of happiness. Get yourself sharp, and then get yourself off. 
Boy parts & girl parts fit together. Wow!!! Who planned this?? It’s like organic legos. Let’s play with each other. 
I need to be answering with “Bad” when people ask me how I’m doing. It is habitual how everyone always asks this question and the default answer is “Good”. Or maybe to spice it up more, I should say something a bit more exotic, like “Damaged” or “Horny” or “Indifferent”. Then they will ask “Why?” and I’ll say “No reason. Why? You want one?” and they will get nervous & go away.
It seems like struggling to turn my passions into profits makes traditional commercial business more tolerable. Yet, without this dynamic in play, my passions often engulf my total mindset, like this note says. The best scenario here could just simply be to keep both running in tandem for increased performance. Let’s try it, shall we?
My success in life will likely be a lot sweeter than yours. Why? Because mine is based on my deepest personal desires, not mainstream goals. It’s okay you sad little puppy, I’ll let you have a small lick off of my transcendent hedonism. Just don’t sue me when your eyes roll back and you go blind from pleasure.
While there is often some natural fun in cool self-expression. Being cool is often largely defense to make your raw hedonism acceptable. Raw confidence doesn’t give a shit about cool.
My recent combination of philosophical care reduction, strategic focus on fear reduction, & commitment to passions is causing a real shift in momentum & mindset for a noticeable boost in confidence & happiness. All started with my personal transformation, last summer, where the care & meaning for a lot of shit in my life got killed off. Filling the space back up with an identity & mindset of personal passions has produced very good results. I recommend.
I’m finding that the more deeply I liberate myself from the fear of rejection & take on raw self-expression, the more of a noticeable source of motivation & momentum for achievement and life in general is rising up in me. However, sometimes it is too tempting to stay away from personal desires & buckle down, like this note says. But, overall, it is a net gain. Yet the pleasure & happiness of raw self-expression is worth it itself.
Consciously saying really fucking dumb shit for the fun of it is one of the most intelligent & wise acts a person can consistently do in their life. But don’t tell the professionals & puritans of our society that or they just might take the sticks out of their assholes…and we don’t want to smell poop on a stick. Do we???
I’m going to start consistently posting eccentric unintelligibles, in raw form, off the top of my mind, to my social profiles. These will be in addition to my notes & blogs, but won’t be posted to my website, for convenience. This is for raw & pleasurable self-expression that is to be an ongoing celebration of life. If you love it, then engage it. If you hate it, then unfriend me. It’s going to get raunchy & retarded. I love life!
When you really polarize into your true non-mainstream identity & lifestyle, finding and truly connecting with friends & lovers in life, that truly fit you, can be quite a challenge. Greater predictability comes with engineered relationships, but organic connections are tough, due to finding the people & emotional chemistry. Lovers are often way tougher than friends too. Man this is fucked up. How can it realistically be made efficient & effective for a high standard within a niche brand of lifestyle? Mine… Hedonistic Rebels …I’m not sure it can.
I really don’t get “spirituality”. What the fuck is spirituality anyway? To me, there is either religious belief or physics. Spirituality sounds more like a description of a mindset or feeling, rather than a concrete thing outside of these. Or maybe it is people who reject mainstream religions who just want to say that they have their own personal religious beliefs?
Everyone knows that redheads are the most passionate of lovers. It’s just a fact of human nature.
Wisdom doesn’t need to be highbrow. Wisdom is simply effective understanding of knowledge. Wisdom can be gained & applied to anything in life, including your own ongoing survival & maximal happiness.
Wisdom can come from study & analysis over time and from applied intelligence in the moment. Wisdom can come from “book smarts” and from “street smarts”. Wisdom can come from learning through your own experiences and the experiences of others.
What do you really want in your life and what does it truly take to live it? How deep does your wisdom run with that?
What good is it for a person to gain the whole world, and yet lose her own personal happiness?
Here’s a list of my personal fears…
Irrational Fears: Heights & Rejection
Logical Fears: Biological Disease & Human Evil
It’d be fair to call me a “hedonistic psychonaut”, although all natural at this point. What is a psychonaut? It is like an astronaut of the mind. One who purposefully explores altered mindsets & emotional experiences. I love seeking out and feeling various mental sources of pleasure & happiness within myself. I discover & define a lot of “life brands” this way to then go live from & develop social experiences out of. Damn, human life is good.
Nice hedonistic rebel song & lyrics by Rihanna…
S&M by Rihanna
Cause I may be bad, but I’m perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don’t care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me
S&M by Rihanna (2010)
Make an expert study out of common everyday life, so that you know how to effectively avoid it.
I have an ability to envision & feel things of such intense and transcendent pleasure & beauty. I wish I could show you my mind. It’d beat out any of your psychedelic drugs, for sure.
One cannot just simply decide what they truly believe in. True belief must be genuinely felt deep down in the subconscious. This is also true for the purpose of one’s life. True life purpose only comes from true belief in it.
I’m now very convinced that there are two major external barriers to heightened happiness in most people’s lives…
The hurdle of financial scarcity, where people have to continuously trade their life’s free time away for the pursuit of money.
The hurdle of connection scarcity, where people don’t have many, if any, personal relationships in their lives that allow them to be loved as their true selves and to fulfill their personal desires with.
The moment you open up one or both of these barriers in a person’s life, assuming that the internal factors are in check, it would be a night & day difference for their quality of life.
It is so clear to me how schools are actually making people dumb. All schools should be using “conceptual learning” instead of “informational learning”. Nobody remembers or grows from the mandatory temporary memorization of information, unless it is for a specific life purpose, like a career chosen by the individual. However, most people often enjoy learning by gaining new useful insights into life & the world. I remember how kids in my school would latch on to interestingly explained concepts, but be bored by continual force feeding of information.
So unless it is schooling being offered specifically to people interested in specialized expertise, then pretty much all schooling should be 80-90% conceptual learning, with only critical informational learning sprinkled in where it has significant impact, like knowing the alphabet. People would grow up to be so much more intelligent & capable if schooling were approached this way. And if you threw in elements of fun, like having a dynamic teacher, then the impact would be doubly amazing.
The core purpose of personal relationships is increased individual happiness. Therefore, somebody can only be a true “relationship expert” if they are an expert on personal happiness as well. Otherwise, they are likely an incompetent fraud who isn’t adding much overall value. I’m ready to shake some perspectives up in this field. 
I remember that, especially in my preteen & teen years, I used to have a lot of general nervous energy continuously running through my mind. This largely came from fear of rejection / social nervousness / social anxiety, whatever you want to call it. Now, my mind is largely still & calm by default throughout everyday life.
The downside to this is that a chunk of my natural vitality & spark of energy is lost. The upside to this is that I largely operate out of confidence instead of fear, and can do much more of what I want in life without nervous hesitation. And when you are committed to a life of fun & pleasure, like I am, then this upside is way more valuable than the downside. Also, I can predictably gain boat loads of that sense of spark & vitality back through living out my deepest, most potent personal desires in life.
Be a total package, triple threat type of person. Be everything you want to be. You were meant to become what you personally value & desire. Just because different parts of your identity aren’t usually seen together in people, doesn’t mean anything. Create your own custom blend of identity, personality, & self-expression to best celebrate life & humanity through your own unique human nature.
People are so desperate to not be alone. It is quite amazing to see what people do & accept to not be alone. There is a lot of sacrifice of personal desires & personal happiness by much of the world, just so that basic human connection can be sustained.
There’s got to be a systematic or structurally better way to continuously match up a whole lot more win/win personal desires of human connection throughout the world’s modern societies. We all want it, yet only a minority are ending up with this level of quality personal relationships. Such a sad reality. Why? How?
Where do people get off believing that others must maintain personal relationships with them until death? Whether it is family or friends, it doesn’t matter, because we are all individual human beings who are free to end relationships whenever we please, if they don’t suit our standards or happiness in any way. Anything else is pure slavery derived from a sadistic mindset of entitlement or addiction. Human beings are meant to be free, including being free from one another by our own individual will.
Watch out for the Double D’s of how people waste your time & devalue your life… When they don’t backup their good claims, they are often either just plain Dumb or Deceptive. Either one isn’t good. Move on.
Be resource & opportunity independent in your life, because others will often sadistically use what they consistently add to your life as a mechanism to manipulate & control you, by threatening to damage your life, once their opinion of you shifts. And it often eventually will with most people if you are pursuing your highest dreams & personal happiness. Checkout this note for more insight on the best way to live.
People tell me that I have a unique & innovative framework for personal relationships, so it looks like I am writing a book about alternative personal relationships and am creating a personal service out of it to really help people fix & maximize their relationship happiness. This shit really is a huge personal passion of mine too! Me loves happy fucking.
I totally forgot that I love pineapple on top of pizza! It is like an orgy in my mouth right now!
There seems to be three major sides to my personality that really consistently make me happy to live life from…
These are:
- Hedonistic Rebel
- Eccentric Retard
- Crazed Intellectual
I still curb myself depending on the people I’m with. For example, much of my family knows the intellectual & retard sides of me, but not so much the hedonistic rebel.
Funny how we can consistently act with very different sides of our personalities depending on who’s presence we are in.
I believe it is best to live as close to 100% raw & natural, based on internal personal desire, without curbing self-expression for the sake of those around you. Yet, we desire connection with certain people too, so there is that variable.
I’m living more & more like this, but have a ways to go before expressing my true raw & natural self in most moments with others. For now, I’m doing a good job at being my real self but adjusted to the present people & situation.
In fact, I had fun acting like a drunk kid at some sports event today and causing a lot of smiles to appear on people’s faces.
God damn, life can be so outrageously fun when you don’t fear rejection.
One of the most powerful & personally liberating positions to always be in is to have the ability to walk away from people & opportunities and still get what you want in your life. I’m living this more & more now and it feels fucking amazing.
I thought most people understood the basic concept of what the term hedonistic means? Since my transformation of personal identity last summer, from humanitarian to hedonist, I’ve had more than 50% of people ask me what it means. It is better explained in a couple paragraphs, but, put simply in a short sentence…
Hedonism is the pursuit of happiness & pleasure without much regard to social norms.
There are different perspectives of it, including formal philosophical & psychological, and the slanted mainstream perception is that of crazed excess & debauchery. But, if you think about it, every human being is engaged in some of the general definition of hedonism. However, some people have identities & lifestyles that are more overtly polarized this way, like me. I personally think it is one of the best approaches to life, for maximizing happiness.
Because it is relative to social norms, which are localized & ever-changing, what would typically be seen as a hedonistic lifestyle is always evolving over time. For example, sex with several partners outside of marriage across one’s lifetime may have been generally seen as a hedonistic trait a hundred years ago in the United States, but is now an open & everyday part of mainstream life here. Now days, it takes having sex with several partners, all at once, to be branded as hedonistic. But even threesomes & moresomes are becoming more of an everyday norm.
And a lot of people pronounce the term in a strange way when reading it. They say it “headonism” when it is actually said like “heedonism”.
Now, go pleasure yourself, with hedonistic thoughts of me.
It took a lot to find out that E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G said or done by human beings is self-interested, if not consciously, then at least on a subconscious level. So ensure that what others want from you is in the true ongoing interest of your own life & happiness. Don’t become a hater of humanity, just play with it and have fun with your life. Primarily pursue your dreams & happiness on your terms and create win/win arrangements with others.
Ahh, the indulgences of humanity…
Some people indulge in a smorgasbord of food & drink.
Some people indulge in maintenance of health & fitness.
Some people indulge in achievements of money & fame.
Some people indulge in explorations of science & knowledge.
Some people indulge in service of god & morals.
Some people indulge in expressions of creativity & art.
Some people indulge in experiences of love & connection.
It is all ultimately for one sole purpose… Personal Happiness
Take away the happiness and the human would rather take its own life.
Our minds are pain/pleasure machines. Take away the pleasure and you’re just left with a machine that wants to eliminate the pain. Without the possibility of pleasure, the only thing left for the machine to do is turn itself off.
I’m glad to be alive and free to pursue a life full of so much happiness!
How about you?
It is often easy to monitor & judge those people closest to you, because you’ve invested a core part of your identity, comfort, & happiness into them. Yet, should you really be beating them with your social & emotional hammers based on your model of humanity & life? Should they do the same back to you based on their own personal beliefs? Is your end goal to rob each other of individual happiness in order to gain the result of conformance?
Instead, provide the space & support needed for each other’s natural personality, lifestyle, & self-expression to shine through. If who you both naturally are as people remains in conflict, then it is time to let go with love. Managing relationships this way will better enable the happiness of you & those you care for. Wasn’t that the goal from the start when you first decided to really love this person? Or is your love meant to be served out as a selfish obligation?
Many people don’t feel an obligation to conform to the expectations & judgments of others who live outside their own country. This is why many people still feel more free to act from their raw human nature when vacationing overseas, than somewhere closer to home. Yet something changes when closer to their home address for most people and they start curbing their natural self-expression out of fear of rejection.
However, the reality is that strangers are strangers whether they live 1, 10, 100, 1,000, or 10,000 miles away from you. They are all just people, just the same, all over. So why not be your true self out in your own community at home. Also, today’s strangers are tomorrow’s friends and today’s friends are tomorrow’s strangers.
Do you really deep down believe the expectations & judgments of other people should be a primary driver of who you become & how you live your personal life, no matter what the age, nationality, affluence, education, or familiarity of these other opinionated people? Shouldn’t who you are and what you do with your life come from judgment within, based on personal happiness? Yes!!
Settling down, creating & maintaining a traditional family, carving out a professional career, and buying into polite society often serves many of the short-term needs of people. However, over the years of life, with 90+% of people, it rots & kills the youthful soul filled with the white hot fire of passion, personal identity, self-expression, spontaneity, & wonder that we are meant for. This is ultimately a sacrifice of one’s happiness. Yeah… Umm… Have fun with that.
Be okay with not being clearly defined and others not understanding you. Just go be & do what you truly want deep down inside anyway. It’s your life to get off, not theirs.
Remember some of the most transcendent & connected states of mind you’ve experienced in life? As this version of yourself, how would you have advised your current self to feel & go about your life, including your present day problems? Music often inspires me back into this perspective of truth.
The nature of integrity is being in alignment with something. It is impossible to be in alignment with everything on earth. So by definition, you have to always be both in integrity & out of integrity. The real question is not whether you’re in integrity or not, but rather what you yourself should choose to be in integrity with. I think the right answer is whatever personally makes you most happy that doesn’t violate the bodies or property of others, without their consent. Other than that, other people’s judgments of your personal integrity are for wiping your asshole with.
So many people attach their identities & lives to their mainstream careers. This is easy to do with an associated sense of expertise, progress, & connection with others. However, most all people will be pigeonholed into just a commonly decent or good life, which will never be truly fulfilling.
If people invested themselves into studying & developing their natural personal identities, personalities, & lifestyles as much as their careers, then they would find a whole new world of outrageous passion & happiness open up that really sets them on fire. I’ve done both in life and the difference is crystal clear.
Girl’s dolls were made so that boys could fuck them with their action figures. Didn’t every modern boy do this growing up? I know I plowed the shit out of Barbie with my Ninja Turtles! It made Ken cry like a little bitch, because his crotch was smooth.
YEAH!!!!! Here’s my new anthem…
Human Nature by Madonna
You punished me for telling you my fantasies
I’m breakin’ all the rules I didn’t make
Express yourself, don’t repress yourself
Did I say something true?
Oops, I didn’t know I couldn’t talk about sex
And I’m not sorry
It’s human nature
I’m not your bitch don’t hang your shit on me
Human Nature by Madonna (2010)
Human Nature by Madonna (1995)
I love a lot of different types of music, but my consistently favorite genres revolve around pop, dance, & electronic. I often get a peak feeling of life out of these. Fucking love.
Physical & sexual intimacy are merely variable components of one’s personal relationships, just like sharing recreational hobbies with certain likeminded people. Just because you are physically or sexually intimate with a friend, doesn’t mean that there is some automatic cosmic or societal obligation to integrate & unify a greater chunk of your tangible lives, whether in a setting of casual dating, lasting monogamy, or polyamory.
Love between humans should be shared free of inherent social, economic, or legal obligations, which limit overall mental freedom & lifestyle happiness for those involved. Personal relationships should only be created to serve the individual happiness of those involved, without restriction. This is accomplished by only matching up specific win/win personal desires without compromise. Any other factors are eliminated from the relationship and it’s up to the individuals to get those desires fulfilled elsewhere. Sex is just another variable component of personal desire to factor in, between friends, not a brand new personal relationship structure of its own.
Romantic Love = Deep Personal Friendship + Sex
Does this approach automatically make life consistently easy? No, but it certainly is an approach that optimally structures the lives of truly abundant minded & results oriented people for the purpose of maximal personal happiness, which is what our lives are all about anyway, unless you’ve gotten disconnected from this fact along the way. Fully embrace your raw human nature & unfiltered personal desires and then create your personal relationships on top of them.
I’m now wondering if my core theme of “creative building” could morph into “creative self-expression”. Recently have been feeling the pull of this dynamic in me. That would be quite interesting. However, it might just be a temporary phase. We’ll see!
When you find yourself consciously or subconsciously agreeing or volunteering to do things in personal relationships out of compromise or obligation, then you are carving out a part of your own unique personal desires, which are ultimately where your happiness comes from. Relationships are not finite & fixed resources that you have to adjust to, like money or oil, but your remaining time to live in this life how you really want is getting more & more limited. Relationships should be designed & created based on customized win/win personal desires of each person’s individual happiness.
However, when you introduce a sense of compromise or obligation into them, you reduce the potential for personal happiness. This can easily spawn a social dynamic where the relationship’s foundation gets penetrated & destabilized by these cancerous elements. The nature of true happiness is individual. The nature of true happiness lies in personal freedom. The best relationships completely serve the individual happiness of those involved, instead of the individuals involved serving the relationship.
We are all here to freely express our passion, indulge in our desires, and be happy, not make rules & set boundaries to safeguard the present day opportunities for these things. You predictably fill your life with and hold on to these good things by doing exactly what you love with others that love it too. Be entrepreneurial & multiply the personal value with your love & happiness, not bureaucratic & protectionist. Life is not an obligation, so don’t make it into one.
This is a powerful & rare distinction, despite not sounding like one… One of the ABSOLUTE BEST personal assets one could create in life is a perpetual mindset fixed with the feelings of happiness & transcendent meaning in their life. Walking around in daily life ACTUALLY FEELING as though you are the creator of your own beautiful universe would predictably produce such an outrageously amazing life that it would make unicorns cry.
The only question is how to get here in reality? Most people don’t even have a true sense of experiencing or visualizing this mindset for themselves. It’s 100 times harder to get something you can’t identify. So actually viscerally experiencing & knowing this mindset is a very big milestone. Its hard to intellectually transfer to another person because it is based on deeply custom personal feelings & meaning. I had lost it for years and just today remembered & felt it again. WOW!!!!!
When something is wrong in the mind of a human being, large or small, it is either an issue of some personal meaning they hold about life in their conscious/subconscious mind or an issue of malfunctioning brain hardware. That is all. Usually, it is just an issue of unobvious personal meaning that can be corrected through personal development.
All of the diagnoses & drugs in traditional psychology are often times way off and only treating symptoms in rudimentary & often unhealthy ways. Face the fucking truths of life and adjust your mindset & emotions to them for genuine strength & well being.
Are you prepared to strategically sacrifice in your life for what you ultimately want? Are you at least willing to go through phases of poverty, being alone, ridicule, etc, to get what you really want out of life? When you gain the capability to strategically sacrifice like this, a lot of personal power is gained for achieving the life you dream of. I know this firsthand.
